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Before Making the Decision to Divorce


Over years of handling divorce cases, we have discovered that many people believe if they change partners they will have changed their lives. This is generally not the case, because change is an inside job. When considering a family reorganization, we urge people to think twice and consider counseling instead. However, if divorce is inevitable, make the procedure as positive as you can. Use it as an opportunity to acquire communication skills. If there are children involved, use the divorce experience to develop cooperative parenting strategies that are in harmony with the fact that parents are forever. You will be involved with your children’s other parent for the rest of your life. Whether or not you remain in the marriage, you have the ability, and the obligation, to make that relationship healthier.
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Pre-Marital Assessment [HTML]
You may be in the market for routine maintenance, relationship overhaul, or a dignified termination. The 16 Personality Factors, or 16PF, will help identify personality factors that may predict marital compatibility and satisfaction. Results also highlight existing or potential problem areas. Click HERE to contact mental health professionals who conduct the 16PF pre-marital assessment. 
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Divorce Assessment Instrument [HTML]
Couples whose marriages are in trouble face difficult decisions, all of which have the potential for serious consequences. The Pre-Divorce Survey will show you a clearer picture of what lies ahead for you, and how to prepare for this crucial decision. 
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Formula for Infidelity [HTML]
Dr. Mark Goulston, clinical psychiatrist and author of several books, suggests four tools to heal a marriage that’s been hurt by infidelity: Remorse, Restitution, Rehabilitation, Request for Forgiveness.
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Rules for Fair Fighting [HTML]
If you have to fight, fight fairly. Use the Rules for Fair Fighting to turn a conflict into a healthy, productive learning experience. 
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Havasupai Talking Stick Ceremony [HTML] 
Developed by the Havasupai people and used in tribal counsels to ensure that everyone is heard and all resentments are addressed. The goal of this powerful tool is clear and complete communication. 
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Tips for Talking to Your Partner About Money [HTML] 
When most couples fight, they fight about money. If money is a problem that is fueling your thoughts about divorce, you may simply need to have a calm and loving heart-to-heart with your partner about these concerns. Here are some tips for talking to your partner about money.
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7 Options for Divorce [HTML] 
Most people, and most lawyers, do not know that a divorce doesn't have to be a courtroom battle. Read the 7 Options for Divorce to find out what your alternatives are. 
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